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[flower_curator]

Hi all,


well the problem I have is being shy, I have trouble approaching girls, I kinda feel that its weird.


I feel kinda stupid actually.


I mean when I see a really fine girl, Im thinking, damn I would love to hook up with her, but then I think, how can I go up to her and ask her out,


Isnt that a bit weird? some guy you dont know, goes up to you and says all this crap.


I guess I just dont know what to say to the girl, without showing that Im needy and desperate you know.


Question to the girls here, whats the best way that a guy approached you? what did they say?

Without using some stupid line.


Hope y'all can help me out here.

Thanks.

[eidosbd]

it's true that a lot of guys fear getting rejected but that is a part of life. basically you're going to have to get used to the fact that everyone gets rejected sometime in their life. rejection doesn't help to build courage but the only way that you're going to have the balls to talk to a girl is by building your self-esteem.


honestly, most girls are flattered at the fact that you have the guts to approach them. they might not be interested in you, but by you taking the inniciative to come up and talk to them, you're flattering them by acting interested in them. what you might say to them might sound werid to you, but on the outside it's a different story. they aren't sure what to expect either and most of the time, they aren't really sure what response to give. i think that basis that you need to remember is that when you see a girl that you think is attractive, what are the chances that you'll see her again? mostly likely to none right? so what have you got to lose. sure you might make an ass of yourself or feel that you did, but you've lose nothing. now if you have gotten her number think of what you'll have gained.

[flower_curator]

Thanks for the reply, Its not so much that Im afraid of getting rejected, I mean I dont have nothing to lose. I just dont know what to say to them, without using a line you know.

Can you help me out someone?


I just wanna make a good impression you know.


Sometimes I get tongue tied, I dont really stutter or mumble but it has happened to me before, when Im presented with a situation that I feel awkward in.


Probably happened to everybody.


Thanks again.

[eidosbd]

everybody has what works for them. what might work for me might or might not work for you. you'll just have to try and see which in the best approach for you. usually i'm the type that starts to ask them for their name then hopefully start up a conversation about if they are going to school or where they have graduated from. i'm in college right now, so i ask them about their major or stuff like that.

[politicgirls]

i agree with illusional...i think it's easy to begin a conversation with someone if she's in the same class as you or if you'd seen them before. i remember i had a crush on a guy who'd i'd always see in my history class. i was too scared to talk to him in history and the semester went by without me talking to him, but luckily he ended up in my theater class. so i started talking to him about the history class from last semester and mentioned i'd seen him before. hope this helps a little....

[tulaka]

"Isnt that a bit weird? some guy you dont know, goes up to you and says all this crap. " it's not crap! This is how people get acquainted with each other!

[Maximus]

these phrases are good. i know that girls like humour, that's why boys, don't be afraid to joke when getting acquainted

[tulaka]

these phrases are good. i know that girls like humour, that's why boys, don't be afraid to joke when getting acquainted

sure thing, however the humour must have limits and boys must know where to stop, otherwise it can go wrong.

[Cold_as_ice]

the problem of being shy is common for all boys. So, in order not to be shy, just don't be afraid to express your thoughts directly. Girls will understand you, unless your thoughts aim to harm her.

[Planetman]

Just don't get serious about this stuff. Go and have fun this is it.

[Cold_as_ice]

Just don't get serious about this stuff. Go and have fun this is it.

that's the problem planetman - shy persons can't merely take it easier and have fun.
The problem of shyness must be solved until one gets 21-25, otherwise the rest of his life will be a hell!

[mixi]

Confidence is built in battles, the more you fight the more you've got, or you have nothing

[Cold_as_ice]

Good advice to all boys: if you want a girl not to turn you down for a date, approach her with a bunch of flowers. No girl in the world will refuse you, moreover she will kiss you at once.

[Maximus]

Good advice CAI. The approach can also be made by asking her the question:
"Let's bet 100$ I will invite you for a date and you'll turn me down"
Two options - either you win the date and you pay 100$ or she refuses you and pays 100$

[Cold_as_ice]

be careful, since the girl might not want to talk to you at all, or, she may consider you a fraudulent person and never will deal with you again. Make jokes, but reasonable ones.

[Maximus]

another good phrase:
Hey girl, you should smile more often. I bet you look 100 times more beautiful when you smile!

[barcelonaar]

Don't be shy! Yesterday a strange guy talked to me in the bus... He look nice and was really kind to me. No problem with that! I told him I had a boyfriend and he told me he had to try it!

[Cold_as_ice]

Don't be shy! Yesterday a strange guy talked to me in the bus... He look nice and was really kind to me. No problem with that! I told him I had a boyfriend and he told me he had to try it!

that's a good example in attempts. Imagine, if you make, let's say, ten attempts per day, then one or two will work for sure. Now, imagine what results in will bring in one week - 7-14 girls! WOW!

[barcelonaar]

Don't be shy! Yesterday a strange guy talked to me in the bus... He look nice and was really kind to me. No problem with that! I told him I had a boyfriend and he told me he had to try it!

that's a good example in attempts. Imagine, if you make, let's say, ten attempts per day, then one or two will work for sure. Now, imagine what results in will bring in one week - 7-14 girls! WOW!

Hahaha! Great numbers for this guy!

[Maximus]

the point is not in quantity, but in quality. I would recommend boys to men to make the approach to the girls they really like. Dispose of any dark thought and think clearly - do you like her or not.

[Cold_as_ice]

If you met a girl in a public place and have already got acquainted to her, don't push. Just try to make it brief - tell her you were glad to meet her and express your hope to have chat later. This will make her be interested in you because you made her understand that you already had girls similar to her and you are experienced, girls like that

[barcelonaar]

the point is not in quantity, but in quality.

QUALITY IS IMPORTANT!

[tulaka]

OK, will try to give a tip on how to show quality when approaching.
Your look is very much important. Girls pay attention to every detail, even your socks, buttons and many other things you consider unimportant.

[Maximus]

especially girls hate when the clothes look dirty or unironed. be fashionable, feel what's the times' exigency and do the step to adjust to this.

[Maximus]

remember to take care about your shoes. The shoes are the man's mirror. When you leave the house make sure your shoes look great and clean. Bear it in mind that what you don't see, girls do see.