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[Bandit]

Hello,


I would like to ask for advice and/or what everyone thinks about this. Currently have been dating a girl for about 8 months on long distance, however we see each other almost every weekend. We instantly saw we had a so much in common (interests, views, politics, religion, etc.) I have NEVER found anyone like her before, and yes I've dated other girls plenty of times. She has all the qualities I look for. However, it seems in the last 2-3 months I've grown "less interested" or do not love her like I used to it seems like. Maybe even a little less attracted, and finding more flaws in her. I'm afraid it sounds so shallow, but I don't want to be that way. I'm scared, as I do not want to let her go, for fear of losing her and regretting it. However, I also feel I should be open with her. Are these feelings normal or not? Should I give it more time? Should we llive together (plan in 3 months from now)? Should I tell her? Any help/advice greatly appreciated. Thanks.


Confused Dude

[Frodo]

i think that you should be honest with her or atleast organize your thoughts first. being that you will be moving in with her or plan to in a few months, that is a great step foward in a relationship. if you are growing weary of the relationship, being around her more will only irritate you. you will have to decide what you want to do in this relationship and if you really want to be with her.

[tulaka]

Maybe you became less interesting to her because you are run out of topics to speak about. I sometimes have the same situation, although I have no problems in communication.

[Maximus]

guys, these means you are not really close to each other. Your love seems to having been vaportated.

[tulaka]

not at all Maximus, it's just that a relation is not always as in the first few moments of meeting. So, they change a little bit, and if the couple communicates less, it doesn't mean at all that they should brake up.

[Cold_as_ice]

Bandit, you forget you can always speak on the love language. Believe me, a couple in love needs no words but love.

[Planetman]

if you're sick of her, then there is no love between you two

[Cold_as_ice]

I would suggest to live separately for a while. It will bring the love back.

[Planetman]

Or never get it back - which is also good - at least you'll find the truth

[tulaka]

the truth comes itself. However many couples do stupid things by breaking up for no reasons, or very insignificant reason, like the one mentioned in this thread.

[Elis]

The truth is different for each of them, who is involved in that couple.
This is because no people are identical

[Cold_as_ice]

Of course no people are identical, but this phrase sounds disappointing. The world wouldn't be interesting if everyone was equal. That's the point, a couple means that each part complements the other one.