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[vehtopunt_rx]

Heya all


This is kind a weird in asking anybody and everybody to help but here goes.....


I met this girl about 2 months ago at a function that i went to with some friends and i was introduced to this girl, and i really really like her now...


We've talked briefly a couple of times and i've tried a few of the flirting tricks mentioned on this site, and seem to be getting some positive results.....


Here's the problem: I can do the flirtiing thing but i cannot work up the courage to actually say anything that i want to say.


Someone please help me....i'm kicking myself at the moment because i can't do anything....

[politicgirls]

Hey, your not the only one with that problem, I have developed a method that has always worked in forcing myself to say what ever it is I need to.

I find the hardest part to be getting the words out of my mouth. I can't tell you how many times I have failed to say what I wanted to say. So what I do is before I have to say goodbye to them for the night I don't force myself to ask them out, because for me that is to hard to get to come out. What I do is I force myself to say something like,"Hey (then there name)?" Then of course they will respond with something like "What", now you have forced yourself to spill your guts out and say what you want to say, no backing out now. Its real easy to say it from there, I know many of the pro daters here will probably ridicule me but ya know, they also do not have the same problem with getting words to come out that I do so I say go with what works

Hope I helped if not then you only wasted a couple minutes of your life reading this Good luck

[xXx]

haha that is true. it's a lot easier to get out what you want to say when you there is pressure breathing down your neck. some people put what they want to say off until the very end of the night, then when they are standing outside of the house together, it never comes out. if this is you, then i'm suggesting that you don't wait until the end of the night. when the moment feels right, or if there is nothing that you have left to talk about, out of no where, say.."i have something to tell you" then the words might not come out easily, but it will come out one way or another. you won't have time to think of a lie, so you're likely get out what you want to say.

[Tom]

Sometimes, it does not work that well.


When you start


Hey (whatever her name might be)


What?


then u start fumbling for the words. And u would look real silly.


some suggest rehearsing


but i find that useless too, because come the real scene, it would seem like there were no rehearsals.


in my opinion, if u are really jelly-like shaky in the legs, and white minded when speaking to someone u have a crush on, sms her on the hp, or send a pm on icq or irc


=)

[Nikollas]

Glad you can't "say what you want to say" because I'm guessing its something along the line of "I LOVE YOU!"


Ask her out for lunch sometime and let things progress from there. Keep your ballz in check.

[tulaka]

try to have a couple of beers before meeting her. Alcohol will make you relax.

[Maximus]

getting drunk is not a good idea, be careful, girls don't like that!

[tulaka]

maximus, I'm not talking about getting drunk. I'm just saying that a bottle of beer would make him think and act correctly.

[Cold_as_ice]

Maximus is right. Girls hate to feel even a bit of alcohol smell. For me, it may end with a break up if my boyfriend comes to me drunk. Bear that in mind.

[Planetman]

Remember you're the man, and they expect that from you not vice versa.

[Cold_as_ice]

the advice of having a little alcohol before dating would be feasible for a couple under 20. So it all depends on your age. When women are elder, they like men to keep the situation under control, and not get drunk.

[mixi]

I don't think any woman would like such a situation

[Cold_as_ice]

I remember once having to help my boyfriend get home, since he was drunk, it was awful, since then, I hate watching drunk men.

[Elis]

I was with some of my class mates from my college, non of them my boyfriend though, all of them drunk, but it was a lot of fun to fool around with them

[Cold_as_ice]

simply make it simple, by talking about anything that first comes to your mind. Don't search for difficult topics, remember, anything you look at could be a topic for discussion.