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[Lion]

Well, if everyone wants to be successful in their love life. We have to get rid of our bad habits or problems. And how do we get rid of our problems? We have to admit them first! Surely we all know our problems. Admit them, and let's see where this thread goes.


Me first!


I'm protective. Well, maybe not as much as I used to be. I kind of worked on that problem for a while. Also, forgiving your girlfriend for cheating on you really helps tone that down.


I can't stand being alone. The three weeks I spent being single after my ex-girlfriend left me. I felt meaningless. I moved into my next relationship a little quickly. I admitted to love in about a week. I move too fast. Even though my going fast in this new relationship is actually making things go really well. It was risky.


There we go. Those are my problems. What are yours?

[ShowMustGoOn]

i'm a doormat.

[Hertikol882]

I'm arrogant.

[ShowMustGoOn]

I'm arrogant.

i've seen your kind. it's not pretty.

[Tom]

i don't speak up alot.... especially in the beginning. like steve i can be a doormat. i remember i used to take alot of shit from my ex, and then after a while i just snapped and wouldn't take it anymore. he was like where the hell did that come from??? i learned alot from that. i don't do it so much anymore, but i do find myself doing it sometimes!

[xXx]

I like to masterbate to pictures of my female cousins.

[xXx]

Oh shit. . . . I think I'm in the wrong 'admission' thread . . . .

[Selesta]

-i use humour as a defence mechanism, pathologically.

-i'm too polite at the beginning; not always clear about my boundaries

-when i get mad i just wander off instead of losing my temper; it's a control

thing, i think


neat thread. i'd love to know what people do in their relationships that they are proud of, too, but that's another thread.

[sekopunt_pr]

alexi.. no wonder you wanted a sticky thread ah??


well as for me, i always convert my girl into an alcoholic.

[Shirley Cheadle]

I am shy at the beginning of relationships and can be a doormat, I also have the problem of turning all my girlfreinds into party loving alchoholics,

[Nicole Smith]

i am controlling

[Vertihvostka]

i am quite passive in a relationship with someone i really like and admire. I'm just scared of acting stupidly. Another problem is insecurity then i just end up protecting myself and refuse to love. it sucks.

[eidosbd]

Well let's see...


- I always feel like I'm bothering someone when I'm trying to get to know them, and I can't read the signs of when I am or am not, so I play it safe.


- I can't read ANY signs and I'm almost in a constant state of being oblivious.


- I also revert to humor, even bad humor, as a defense mechanism when nervous, which doesn't always work out, which makes me MORE nervous.


- I tend to over-analyze things that bother me as well as others.


- I tend to over-analyze things that I say as well as situations that I am in that would be simple for others to complete.


- And my biggest of all right now, I always think that someone I'm talking to has an ulterior motive for them being kind to me. I've lost a lot of friends this way.. unfortunately.


- Oh, and I never know when to ask for a second date, or even if I should. Should I wait for her to express a specific interest in the first one before asking for a second? Or should I go by her reaction the night the date is over?


- Finally, I always second guess my decisions as well as myself, which leads to problems, which leads to me not getting who I want. Stupid self confidence.

[eidosbd]

Well let's see...


- I always feel like I'm bothering someone when I'm trying to get to know them, and I can't read the signs of when I am or am not, so I play it safe.


- I can't read ANY signs and I'm almost in a constant state of being oblivious.


- I also revert to humor, even bad humor, as a defense mechanism when nervous, which doesn't always work out, which makes me MORE nervous.


- I tend to over-analyze things that bother me as well as others.


- I tend to over-analyze things that I say as well as situations that I am in that would be simple for others to complete.


- And my biggest of all right now, I always think that someone I'm talking to has an ulterior motive for them being kind to me. I've lost a lot of friends this way.. unfortunately.


- Oh, and I never know when to ask for a second date, or even if I should. Should I wait for her to express a specific interest in the first one before asking for a second? Or should I go by her reaction the night the date is over?


- Finally, I always second guess my decisions as well as myself, which leads to problems, which leads to me not getting who I want. Stupid self confidence.

[ShowMustGoOn]

well as for me, i always convert my girl into an alcoholic.




can't get sex from her unless she's drunk, eh?

[prozac7674]

Yep, he's hopeless.

[jenifferka]

I can't stand being alone.


Thank you, I'm glad I'm not the only one. I don't trust myself anymore, because I know I hate being alone, and I know that I'm consistantly desperate, and I'm afraid I'll just end up hurting someone if I try and un-alone myself.

[ParisFashion]

I am also somewhat afraid to be alone. Even when I'm single I always try to somehow make a connection with someone even if it is for a brief moment.


I am a compulsive flirt. Once I actually reach the relationship point.. then I do the complete opposite.. I feel that I might be missing out on someone else and then I start to judge my reasons for being in the relationship. So I start flirting with people. I will never go as far as cheating, but the attention is what I seem to want. Even before I start the flirting process I tell them I have a boyfriend. Then it comes to a point that I made the guy fall head over heals and I can't do anything about it. Which in turn gives me a lot of guilt. Yet, I still feel alone or in need of something.


Aye, what a life...

[Frodo]

I giggle to much.

And i put to much pressure on myself to try and be perfect

[jenifferka]

Personally, I dont have enough experience. I will flirt with a girl, I will sometimes even get a girl's interest in me, but I have no idea where to go from there. I would *wink* really appreciate some *wink* help *wink*.


*wink*.

[Frodo]

do you have something in your eye? lol sorry couldnt help it

Just tell her that you like her and would she like to go out to a movie or something casual so she feels more comfy (movies are good because u don't have to talk the whole time so you will get more comfortable until the convo flows more easily)

[Val Phoenix]

i'm jealous, possesive, controlling, short-tempered and over-protective, if u want to know why i am all these things look at my thread in the fun forum under general discussion called "thorn in my brain". it will all make sense once u've read that

[sarinka]

I have a tendency to be standoffish.. I like my space and I like to do stuff by myself.. oh ... yeah... and Im an alcoholic.. lol

[Bandit]

i over analyse everything


i'm too aloof in fear of looking clingy/desperate

[johny-johny]

i have some of the same traits some of you have. i like my space too. i like to run free and i can squirm my way out of anything.


i'm a huge flirt, i just cannot help it. i'll flirt with any man or woman it doesn't matter.


otherwise i'm perfect :french:

[Nikollas]

i dont really have too many because ive learned from ever single mistake ive made along the way, and trust me ive expierenced about every single mistake that could possibly be made. so i learned a lot.


but i have to say one thing is i have trouble keeping a womans interest level up.

no clue why. but other than that i have it down pretty good now.

[sarinka]

i dont really have too many because ive learned from ever single mistake ive made along the way, and trust me ive expierenced about every single mistake that could possibly be made. so i learned a lot.


but i have to say one thing is i have trouble keeping a womans interest level up.

no clue why. but other than that i have it down pretty good now.


im sorry... who are you again? .. I wasnt paying attention... j/k

[Shirley Cheadle]

I was informed yesterday that my biggest fault is thinking I'm funny when I'm blatently not


If I make myself laugh then surely I'm funny???