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Hertikol882 · Paris Forums Visitor Joined: 14 May 2006 Posts: 94

The first 5-6 years of a child life or very important formatively
We have proof of this both physiologically and subjective psychology

Selesta

I didn't have a very good child hood with my parents and aunt and uncle and cousins and all that
But the parts that i choose to remember i like the most
Like playing out in the fields and stuff
Watching butterflies and stuff
Pickin' green apples out of the big apple tree
Throwing the green apples at the stupid cows

AmericanGuestHouse.Com · Paris Forum Guest

Funny how these discussions get off topic, but anyways, this is how I think, no matter what someone looks like, how can you like them if you cant hold a conversation or even get along? The point of companionship is to have someone you care about not so much to have someone that you can show off. I won't lie, in today's society you are forced to take a look and rate yourself (and better yourself) but I honestly don't think that matters!

Hertikol882 · Paris Forums Visitor Joined: 14 May 2006 Posts: 94

For people who have to work both couples, the child needs a consistant caretaker for her first 5 years at least.
A grandmother is fine.
Or a nanny, preferably one who lives in side your home.

Zuban

A good quality child care progam is also fine
Prior to age 2, a babysitter or nanny is preferable
But after age 2, a more structured and social setting is nice
They enjoy it
And they get a lot out of it
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flower_curator · Paris Forums Visitor Joined: 15 May 2006 Posts: 70

Yeah, a cute nanny
Young and easy

Hertikol882 · Paris Forums Visitor Joined: 14 May 2006 Posts: 94

The king of Morrocco had a Jewish Nanny which is why he is so Non anti semitic. She was important to him
2-5 is the most important age
0-2 is in fact slightly less important.
The emotional security is bonded in the 2nd to 5th or 6th years.

flower_curator · Paris Forums Visitor Joined: 15 May 2006 Posts: 70

But after 5 it's okay to kill them for being little shits right?

Hertikol882 · Paris Forums Visitor Joined: 14 May 2006 Posts: 94

My kids were totally secure growing up and I never hit them once, I never had to .They didnt suck their thumbs, either of them.
I did
Until I was in 1st grade
AND MAYBE longer!

flower_curator · Paris Forums Visitor Joined: 15 May 2006 Posts: 70

you sucked thier thumbs?

sarinka

I sucked my thumb too Smile

Hertikol882 · Paris Forums Visitor Joined: 14 May 2006 Posts: 94

Hehe
My own thumb

Zuban

Neither one of mine sucked their thumbs
But then I didn't either
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Hertikol882 · Paris Forums Visitor Joined: 14 May 2006 Posts: 94

An attempt to find security

Hertikol882 · Paris Forums Visitor Joined: 14 May 2006 Posts: 94

I also never paid attention to age
I paid attention to development.
I let things happen naturally
In their own time
I never rushed anything

Zuban

Thumb sucking is a self-soothing activity
Like rocking one's self
Or attachment to a special object like a toy
Etc
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Selesta

I never sucked my thumb but i used to bite my finger nails down to the nub =/
Heh i still do bite my finger nails actually

Hertikol882 · Paris Forums Visitor Joined: 14 May 2006 Posts: 94

Gross..
My kids had no special attachments.
I had a blanket I cried when my dad said he burned it.
I sucked my thumb I had a blankie. I was very insecure as a child.

Zuban

It's really not an indicator of anything
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Selesta

I never had a blankey

Zuban

I think that even secure kids have "security objects"
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politicgirls

My son is still mad at me for throwing his baba in the trash truck heh

Selesta

Hehe i had a motorcycle =P
Oh my god although!
I did have my favorite all time Ozzy Osbourne hat
It had pins that would be worth 100's of dollars today
My dad threw the fucker into the trash!
Asshole
The entire hat was covered in Ozzy pins

Zuban

I've read nothing that suggests a kid's attachment to an object is a sign that they're insecure
My daughter had an imaginary friend
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flower_curator · Paris Forums Visitor Joined: 15 May 2006 Posts: 70

My sister and I got punished one time; My dad poored water into our beds before we went to sleep and tolds us when we fucked up and were living on the streets that's how it'd be.
I don't remember what we did wrong, but it was aparently something to do with not respecting what we had... I certainly remember the punishment though lol

vehtopunt_rx

Well I had 3 kids.. to did not suck thumbs or have objects they would not give up.. one had a blanket..
They were all raised the same

Hertikol882 · Paris Forums Visitor Joined: 14 May 2006 Posts: 94

My children were never insecure. They were sourrouned by us all the time. Holding them caring for them reading to them, calming them down by talking to them not by hitting them, I broke all the conventioanl rules and so far the experiment is succeeding. I an in the final phase lets see if it goes well Wink

And I hope my kids stay close to me after high school and college

politicgirls

I got called a fucker a lot when I was young